Thank you for sharing your words and your self with us. This is honest, brave, and a direct line to healing. I’m 14 years sober, so if you need sober support, please reach out.
I don’t have quite the right words to say about your post, except that I deeply admire your honesty, vulnerability, and the way you are working on yourself.
Thank you for reading, commenting, and witnessing.
I am nearly finished with Pia Melody's Facing Love Addiction. It has changed my perspective on my last relationship and on people in general.
I've been reading and re-reading all of Brene Brown’s books for years now, trying to understand and become a wholehearted person. I couldn't quite wrap my head around the idea that everyone is doing their best. Because I didn't like someone’s behavior, they couldn't possibly be doing their best. Now I understand, thanks to Pia’s book. I was doing my best with the knowledge, understanding, and work I had done so far.
My ex-partner was absolutely doing her best.
I searched within myself and through every resource I could get my hands on to figure out how to forgive her.
However, it's not about that. There's nothing to forgive. We did our best; I've accepted this. Can we be partners? No, absolutely not. Can we be friends? Probably not, not in the foreseeable future. And I love and miss her in spite of all that has gone between us. There’s just no way to reconcile our trauma and have a friendship—not without serious recovery and work.
This is everything. Speak, memory
Just awesome! Thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you for sharing your words and your self with us. This is honest, brave, and a direct line to healing. I’m 14 years sober, so if you need sober support, please reach out.
-Lori
Thank you, this means a lot to me.
I don’t have quite the right words to say about your post, except that I deeply admire your honesty, vulnerability, and the way you are working on yourself.
Thank you for reading, commenting, and witnessing.
I am nearly finished with Pia Melody's Facing Love Addiction. It has changed my perspective on my last relationship and on people in general.
I've been reading and re-reading all of Brene Brown’s books for years now, trying to understand and become a wholehearted person. I couldn't quite wrap my head around the idea that everyone is doing their best. Because I didn't like someone’s behavior, they couldn't possibly be doing their best. Now I understand, thanks to Pia’s book. I was doing my best with the knowledge, understanding, and work I had done so far.
My ex-partner was absolutely doing her best.
I searched within myself and through every resource I could get my hands on to figure out how to forgive her.
However, it's not about that. There's nothing to forgive. We did our best; I've accepted this. Can we be partners? No, absolutely not. Can we be friends? Probably not, not in the foreseeable future. And I love and miss her in spite of all that has gone between us. There’s just no way to reconcile our trauma and have a friendship—not without serious recovery and work.
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The work IS so challenging and painful. I see YOU as well.